{"id":8489,"date":"2012-06-08T09:37:45","date_gmt":"2012-06-08T07:37:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.breigh.com\/wordpress\/?p=8489"},"modified":"2012-06-08T09:56:06","modified_gmt":"2012-06-08T07:56:06","slug":"my-husbands-new-wife","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.canadutch.nl\/blog\/archives\/8489","title":{"rendered":"My Husband’s New Wife"},"content":{"rendered":"

Don\u2019t worry, I\u2019m still talking about me!\u00a0 He hasn\u2019t gone out and found another wife or anything, even tough I\u2019ve been urging him to find one that likes doing housework.\u00a0 I could get into a little Sister Wives action if the other wife would do all the stuff I hate.<\/p>\n

No, what I\u2019m talking about is my husband\u2019s recent exclamations about how he feels like he\u2019s getting a new wife!<\/p>\n

There have been changes happening over the last few years, especially since my gastric bypass<\/a> in January.\u00a0 It was only over the last few days that he\u2019s really been feeling a bit in shock and keeps telling me how feels like he\u2019s getting a new wife.\u00a0 People said it would happen, that he\u2019d enter a period of shock at some point and I think my recent change has tipped him over the edge.<\/p>\n

You know how I\u2019ve been talking about my hair loss<\/a> lately?\u00a0 I thought that I\u2019d probably have to make a decision in regards to my hair at some point.\u00a0 I thought about shaving it all off, getting a wig, cutting it short and just had no idea what<\/em> to do.<\/p>\n

Being the impatient shit that I am, and after yet another morning of masses of hair coming out in the shower, I got fed up and decided to do something about it.\u00a0 After asking around I decided to visit the Toni & Guy<\/a> salon here in Rotterdam ( I actually plan to write about them as I was SO pleased with the service) and I cut my hair!!<\/p>\n

It\u2019s crazy how different it makes me feel and how I almost don\u2019t recognize myself<\/em> when I look in the mirror at times. I can imagine what it must be like for Xander<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Here is the old wife\u2026 the old me.<\/em><\/p>\n

\"80before\"<\/a><\/p>\n

*Sigh* You know, it\u2019s hard to look at this photo now. I don\u2019t know if I want to cry, scream or laugh, to be honest. I feel so out of touch with her now, that person I used to be. All I know is that I\u2019m glad Xander was able to love me enough for the both of us because I had absolutely no love for myself then, none at all.<\/p>\n

This is me last week, at at almost<\/em> 100 lbs down but still with longer hair that was painfully obvious every time one (or 50) fell out of my head.<\/p>\n

\"shopingmay30\"<\/a><\/p>\n

This is the new me\u2026 100 lbs<\/a> lighter, with a new hairstyle that I LOVE!<\/p>\n

\"haircut\"<\/a><\/p>\n

When I look at this photo I feel so different than when I look at the first one.\u00a0 I feel\u2026 happy.\u00a0 I feel like, for the first time in a very very long time, that I could even be considered pretty.\u00a0 Oh god, does that sound incredibly vain or what?\u00a0 I don\u2019t mean that I\u2019m all like DAYUM I AM HAWT! but I guess what I mean is that I don\u2019t feel disgusting and ugly like I felt for so many years.\u00a0 When I was going out the night I took this photo, I wasn\u2019t feeling like my efforts to put on nice clothes or makeup were pointless like I used to.\u00a0 I always felt like there was no point in doing anything because I still looked like an ugly blob.<\/p>\n

Ok, that\u2019s probably not a healthy way to feel about yourself, but let\u2019s be honest, there was nothing healthy about me back in the time when that first photo was taken.<\/p>\n

I can\u2019t really blame my husband for being shocked and continuing to talk about this new wife he\u2019s getting, because I feel the same way.\u00a0 I feel the same shock when I look in the mirror, especially after changing my hairstyle.\u00a0 I almost don\u2019t recognize myself and that can really screw with my head, but it is an awesome thing at the same time.<\/p>\n

It makes me happy when Xander smiles at me, tells me he\u2019s proud of me and talks about this new wife of his\u2026. because I want to be good for him, to do things with him.\u00a0 I want to finally be the wife he\u2019s always deserved.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Don\u2019t worry, I\u2019m still talking about me!\u00a0 He hasn\u2019t gone out and found another wife or anything, even tough I\u2019ve been urging him to find one that likes doing housework.\u00a0 I could get into a little Sister Wives action if the other wife would do all the stuff I hate. No, what I\u2019m talking about …<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":8491,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[19],"tags":[64,617,63,625,353,162,615,877,624,52],"class_list":["post-8489","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","","category-weightloss","tag-changes","tag-gastric-bypass","tag-hair","tag-hair-loss","tag-happiness","tag-marriage","tag-surgery","tag-weightloss","tag-wls","tag-xander"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.canadutch.nl\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8489","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.canadutch.nl\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.canadutch.nl\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.canadutch.nl\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.canadutch.nl\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=8489"}],"version-history":[{"count":8,"href":"https:\/\/www.canadutch.nl\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8489\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":8500,"href":"https:\/\/www.canadutch.nl\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8489\/revisions\/8500"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.canadutch.nl\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/8491"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.canadutch.nl\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=8489"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.canadutch.nl\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=8489"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.canadutch.nl\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=8489"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}