{"id":456,"date":"2006-08-30T10:27:49","date_gmt":"2006-08-30T08:27:49","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.breigh.com\/wordpress\/archives\/456"},"modified":"2010-05-26T21:32:24","modified_gmt":"2010-05-26T19:32:24","slug":"tick-tick-tick","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.canadutch.nl\/blog\/archives\/456","title":{"rendered":"TICK! TICK! TICK!"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Going into my appointment with my fertility specialist today, I had everything figured out.   We were going to take 1-2 years off from trying to get pregnant to give me time to lose my extra weight and for us to figure out if we even really <i>want<\/i> children afterall&#8230; or if our (my) previous obsession with having children was brought on by depression and confusion and a need to add something to a life we (I) thought was lacking here in NL.<\/p>\n<p>When I got in there I reported my 20 LB loss since I saw her last, to which she sort of hummed and calculated how much I still had to go and once again brought up the <a href=\"http:\/\/www.columbiasurgery.org\/divisions\/obesity\/surgical_lapband.html\" target=\"_blank\">Gastric Banding<\/a> topic, which I consider to be totally out of the question.   Yes, I have a fair bit of weight to lose but I am not <i>morbidly obese<\/i>, nor am I unable to exercise and lose this weight naturally.<\/p>\n<p>After explaining that my husband and I have discussed it and decided to take 1-2 years off from &#8216;project baby&#8217; to figure out what we want and for me to get in better shape to deal with pregnancy if it happens&#8230; I then got the speech about my age.  Jesus christ, when did I get to be the age where it was NOW OR NEVER?!   Ok she wasn&#8217;t that bad but she did tell me that putting it off isn&#8217;t the best idea because at 31 I don&#8217;t have that much time left.  Ok, yeah now that I think about, it pretty much was as bad as I said.<\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/www.breigh.com\/blogpics\/bioclock.jpg\" align=\"left\" class=\"rating\" title=\"\" border=\"0\" hspace=\"10\"> Now I feel as though we have all these massive life decisions to make and we must make them right now, because if we don&#8217;t we&#8217;ll be left without a choice.   Like my biological clock is this time bomb inside of me that if I don&#8217;t figure out how to disarm it, is going to go off and blow me and everyone around me to smithereens.<\/p>\n<p>Do we <i>really<\/i> want children or do we want our freedom?   Do I want to put my body through something as stressful as this gastric banding to lose weight in 1\/2 the time so I can get pregnant quicker?!  (I already know the answer to that one, NO!) <\/p>\n<p>It turns out I do have <a href=\"http:\/\/www.pcosupport.org\/\" target=\"_blank\">PCOS<\/a> which I was reminded is not a disease, but a group of symptoms.   Yeah, ok potayto.. potahto, whatever! It all adds up to me struggling with my weight, losing my hair, being infertile and it sucks!   So because of this, the chances of us getting pregnant naturally are very slim.   <\/p>\n<p>Do we really want the stress of these medical procedures to get pregant?  The three years we&#8217;ve spent trying to concieve has already taken our sex life to the very pits of hell and we&#8217;ve barely recovered from it.   What would IVF and all that other shit do to our sex lives and our emotional state?   <\/p>\n<p>Is having children REALLY worth it when it gets to this point?  I really don&#8217;t know.<\/p>\n<p>People who have children talk as though life is incomplete without them, but is it?   Isn&#8217;t there just as much to gain out of life through loving your partner, travelling, seeing the world and the things that come along with the freedom of NOT having children? <\/p>\n<p>Fuck sake&#8230; where&#8217;s a magic 8 ball when I need one.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Going into my appointment with my fertility specialist today, I had everything figured out. We were going to take 1-2 years off from trying to get pregnant to give me time to lose my extra weight and for us to figure out if we even really want children afterall&#8230; or if our (my) previous obsession &hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":7124,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[8,6],"tags":[16],"class_list":["post-456","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","","category-life-in-nl","category-tantrums-rants","tag-project-baby"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.canadutch.nl\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/456","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.canadutch.nl\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.canadutch.nl\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.canadutch.nl\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.canadutch.nl\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=456"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.canadutch.nl\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/456\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4776,"href":"https:\/\/www.canadutch.nl\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/456\/revisions\/4776"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.canadutch.nl\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/7124"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.canadutch.nl\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=456"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.canadutch.nl\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=456"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.canadutch.nl\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=456"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}