Separate Vacations

Not separate exactly, as I’m not having one… but Xander just left to spend 8 days in the South of France and I’m here alone.  

He’s going to visit his parents, which I’m really glad about.  Especially that he’ll get to spend some quality alone time with his mom.  That’s something they haven’t done in years and the last time she was here we were all busy painting and doing reno stuff so they didn’t get much time to themselves.

I would have gone along with him but the train was more expensive than we thought, plus… it’d be expensive for us to find care for all the pets while we were gone.

Also, he’ll be spending a good portion of the time he’s there at his fathers and seeing as I am ‘the root of all evil’ as his stepmother so kindly told my husband a few years ago… I wouldn’t have been welcome to join him.

Ah well, it’s good in a way though.  Xander and I spend so much time together (and we both love it) but the time apart really gives us a good chance to miss each other.

It’s funny, he leaves for work every morning and I’m fine, but the house somehow seems 10x as empty when he leaves in the morning and I know he’s not going to be home at night.

It also makes me realize how dependant I am on him.  I get nervous when he is away because I worry about if something happens like I break my arm, the power goes out, or someone smashes a window.  Will I be able to deal with this stuff on my own?

Pathetic really, these things would have never even crossed my mind back in Canada. In fact, it would have been me who set everything up and sorted it out. 

I miss my independence almost as much as I miss him.

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5 comments

  1. Hey you. I too LOVE my independance and at the same time, now that I am here with Graeme, I wish I could crawl inside him and not let him out of my sight.

    Enjoy your time to yourself. :)

  2. You can do it! And remember: we’re all here in Bloggistan! You will somehow feel more independent as time goes along over here, I am sure.

  3. Naw, I mean I wouldn’t be welcome. They seem to think that I’m to blame for every problem in the family, even ones that took place years before I came along.

    I know what you mean about how you’d react, I’d probably be the same… although my parents would never treat my partner badly simply out of respect for me. They -hated- the guy I was with before my husband but were never truly vocal about it until we split.

    I would never ask him to cut ties with them though, they are his family afterall. He just keeps us all well separate :P

  4. Not welcome? That’s outrageous. If my parents were that intolerant of my parter, they’d never be visited again. Of course, you probbaly mean that you’d be welcome, but it would be unpleasant and undesirable by all. I certainly hope the ‘root of all evil’ business has been cleared up, or at least that your hubby and his stepmother are not on speaking terms. Grrr

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